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Sibling Rivalry

siblingimgSome people believe brothers and sisters instinctively love, and like, each other — till they bring the second baby home. Competition begins early, sometimes with their first introduction to each other. Because children crave huge amounts of love, siblings tend to see each other as a hindrance to Mom or Dad’s affection. Showing unconditional love to all your kids — and justice when flare-ups do occur — will prove to your little ones that there is no need to contend with each other. Eliminating conflict between your children may be impossible, but loving them and teaching them to love each other can end the jealousy in your home.

 


Questions and Answers

Why do my kids have to fight all the time? I have three of them, and they drive me crazy. Why can’t they be nice to each other?
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Our 3-year-old daughter was thrilled about having a new brother or sister. Now, however, she shows signs of jealousy. Please suggest some ways I can ease her through this period of adjustment.
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Our daughter is showing signs of jealousy. How can I help her adjust to a sibling?
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Children: Are They Worth It?
Children can be demanding, frustrating and exhausting. But they can also be a tremendous source of positive change in our lives.


Transitions: Having a Baby, Preparing for Adolescence

Life Pressures: Working Moms, Stay-At-Home Moms, Time for Family

Relationships: Parents and Adult Children, Blended Families

Nighttime Problems

nighttimeimgSleep is an essential part of your children’s growth. And when they don’t get enough of it, it’s likely neither do you. Night terrors and bad dreams can be harder on Mom and Dad than their child, especially when they happen hours after you’ve fallen asleep. Waking up wet makes for cold and soggy mornings, and repeated piles of laundry. Is there some way to put an end to the sleep-deprived grumpies plaguing your family? For those seeking peaceful nights, we have gathered tips and information to help your child “sleep like a baby” again.

 


Background Information

Fast Asleep?
This overview of common nighttime problems may help parents and kids get a good night’s rest.

Water Bed
She’s potty trained by day, but nighttime is a different story.


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My child is afraid of the dark. How can I lessen this fear?
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Other Things to Consider

Children: Are They Worth It?
Children can be demanding, frustrating and exhausting. But they can also be a tremendous source of positive change in our lives.


Transitions: Having a Baby, Preparing for Adolescence

Life Pressures: Working Moms, Stay-At-Home Moms, Time for Family

Relationships: Parents and Adult Children, Blended Families

Media Influence

pcmediaimgMost parents wouldn’t think twice about forbidding their 10-year-old to attend an R-rated movie, full of explicit sex and violence. Yet with one punch of the TV remote control, your child can watch explicit sex, violence and worse, and sometimes that’s just the commercials. Entertainment is readily available to kids. Whether logging on to the Internet, turning on the television or reading a comic magazine, many images are branded into a child’s mind — both negative and positive. Must parents hover over their youngster in an attempt to preserve the child’s innocence? Is there a happy medium between “over-controlling” and “anything goes”?


Background Information

Video Game Ratings Explained
Ratings are helpful tools for parents who want to make informed buying decisions.

How Violent Media Affects the Brain
New research cements a link between violent video games and increased levels of violence in teens

The Power of the Media
It’s hard to deny that music and visual images have tremendous sticking power. But do those lingering sensations really make a difference?

When Life Imitates Art
We need to be very careful about what we allow ourselves to watch and listen to. Examples of others who didn’t make wise choices are numerous, and some of them are frightening.

Children and Television
If parents don’t know what their children watch on TV, it may come back to haunt them.


Questions and Answers

I’m troubled by some of the CDs showing up in our home. How do we set a music standard for our 13-year-old daughter?
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What are the long-term consequences when children watch violent and sexual content on television?
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What is your opinion of video games?
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It Matters What They Watch
Steven slaughtered Xbox villains, watched R-rated movies and surfed endless channels on television. Trouble is, lax boundaries steered him down a destructive path.

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Do What I Do
Children learn by watching us live our lives. It is all the more reason to live honorably.


Transitions: Having a Baby, Preparing for Adolescence

Life Pressures: Working Moms, Stay-At-Home Moms, Time for Family

Relationships: Parents and Adult Children, Blended Families

Low Self-Esteem

lowselfesteemA damaging lie is hidden in the timeworn chant, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” The truth is words mold us, torment us and define us. Children, particularly, are susceptible to the impact of a parent’s words. As children grow and develop socially, mentally and physically, they are affected and shaped by people’s opinions — especially their parents’. A child thrives in school and at home when she has a healthy identity; your reactions and words will either give her confidence to believe she can do anything or convince her she is worthless. It is important for parents to build up their child’s self-esteem: providing a safe, loving, accepting environment will reassure your child and teach him that, with support, he can be or do anything.


Background Information

Signs of Bullying
Parent, teachers, coaches, and even friends can benefit from learning what signs to look for that may indicate that your child is having a problem being bullied.

How Low Can They Go?
Sometimes the pit of low self-esteem can seem bottomless. Your kids may need a lifeline now more than ever.

Self-Esteem Programs Get Low Grades
Can a school curriculum adequately fill kids with decent values?

Stage Fright
Understanding what makes kids lose their composure can help them regain it.

To Each His Own
It’s normal for some kids to learn at a slower pace.


Questions and Answers

You have said that children and young people are experiencing an epidemic of self-doubt and feelings of low self-esteem. Why do you think this is true?
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My 16-year-old daughter wasn”t asked to the prom and she”s crushed. As a dad, what can I do to help build her up?
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The Wounded Spirit
Bullying is not the harmless youthful activity some think it is. It inflicts psychological scars that can last a lifetime.

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Other Things to Consider

The Perfect Child
A little perfectionism goes a long way. Too much can be a real downer for kids.


Transitions: Having a Baby, Preparing for Adolescence

Life Pressures: Working Moms, Stay-At-Home Moms, Time for Family

Relationships: Parents and Adult Children, Blended Families

Learning Concerns

learningimgNearly every parent hopes their child will be brilliant — the next great thinker, artist or American president. When that child experiences developmental delays, however, such dreams are dashed. In almost every classroom, at least one youngster has a learning disability (some severe, others barely noticeable), and that struggling child is frequently the target of jokes from “typical” kids and sighs from impatient teachers. Watching this battle is agonizing. Parents suspect learning disabilities imprison gifted human beings. And they’re often right. Some of the world’s greatest intellectuals — including Albert Einstein —are believed to have been learning disabled. A combination of encouragement, medical evaluation and a treatment plan can help your child maximize his potential.


Background Information

To Each His Own
It’s normal for some kids to learn at a slower pace.

Types of Learning Difficulties
If you suspect your child may have a learning disability, parents need to be aware of the symptoms that prevent learning at school.


Questions and Answers

My six-year-old son is beginning to have learning problems in school because he can’t stay in his seat and concentrate on his lessons. What should I do?
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Is retention in the same grade ever advisable for a child who is not a late bloomer? How about the slow learner?
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My older child is a great student and earns straight A’s year after year. Her younger sister, now in the sixth grade, is completely bored in school and won’t even try. Why would she refuse to apply her ability like this?
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A Reason to Hope
Poor grades at school, inattentiveness and a failure to complete tasks might have a cause you haven’t thought of.

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Other Things to Consider

The Perfect Child
A little perfectionism goes a long way. Too much can be a real downer for kids.


Transitions: Having a Baby, Preparing for Adolescence

Life Pressures: Working Moms, Stay-At-Home Moms, Time for Family

Relationships: Parents and Adult Children, Blended Families

Health Concerns

healthimgFrom coughs to chickenpox, sneezes to stomach flu, kids seem to be germ magnets. And there’s nothing more stressful than a sick child. What do you do when the baby’s temperature spikes to 104 F or the babysitter calls with news that your son has a stomachache? Sometimes the best medicine is a little “tender loving care,” sometimes what’s needed is a trip to the doctor. With all the medical advice around, whom should you trust? Herbal remedies, a dozen cough syrups, expensive specialists — how can a parent know what’s best? If you visit the pediatrician so often you feel like you should have a standing appointment, this site offers practical advice on how to promote good health in your child, when to be worried and when to wait the illness out.


Background Information

Health Problems, Hypochondria or Cries for Help?
When your adolescent repeatedly complains of not feeling well in the morning, how do you know whether to offer TLC and bed rest or escort him to the bus stop?

Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
This advice won’t eliminate all cases of SIDS, but it could save hundreds, if not thousands, of lives every year.

The Debut of Teeth
Though it’s exciting for parents, getting teeth can be a pain in the mouth and elsewhere for babies.

Understanding Vaccines
Do you know the purpose of each of your child’s vaccinations?

What Causes Vomiting and Diarrhea in Infants?
If your infant vomits or has diarrhea, be aware of these possible causes.


Questions and Answers

I’m trying to potty train my 3-year-old son who has Down syndrome. Does he have the capacity to understand at this age, considering his challenges?
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Chronic Kids, Healthy Spirits
Two sisters write about parenting their children with chronic illnesses

Dear Friend
In the face of bad news, it helps to hear from someone who’s already passed through the valley.

Too Young To Die
Living with a seriously ill child can seem too much to bear.

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Other Things to Consider

Bearing the Burden of a Child’s Illness
In the midst of a devastating diagnosis, sometimes all you can do is to trust God.


Transitions: Having a Baby, Preparing for Adolescence

Life Pressures: Working Moms, Stay-At-Home Moms, Time for Family

Relationships: Parents and Adult Children, Blended Families

Feeding, Sleeping and Crying

feedsleepcryimgBefore you had a baby, you likely ran hard and laid down eager for a good night’s rest — and you likely got it. Now, however, two hours uninterrupted sleep is a luxury. Midnight feedings — and mid-day cryfests —confirm your baby’s complete dependence on you, which is both a blessing and a burden. The road to well-timed feedings, peaceful naptimes and dreamy nighttimes can be fraught with difficulty, but you will get there, eventually. Your baby can’t put words to her needs and pains, but her cries are not a response to inadequacies in you. Eventually, she will sleep without endless rocking and lullabies, feeding will become routine…and you both will rest. In the meantime, read on for some encouragement and tips to help you make the most of this challenging, blessedly temporary, season.


Background Information

Breast to Bottle
These tips can help make a smooth transition for both Mom and baby.

Ready for Meat and Potatoes
If a couple of teeth erupt before six months of age (the usual time of the first appearance of teeth), this in itself is not a sign that your baby is ready for pizza.

Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
This advice won’t eliminate all cases of SIDS, but it could save hundreds, if not thousands, of lives every year.

Why Won’t They Eat?
One of life’s greatest mysteries is how a preschooler can survive on three spaghetti noodles, half a banana and a graham cracker for an entire day!


Questions and Answers

Should a parent try to force a child to eat?
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What are “night terrors?”
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What causes a child to wet the bed?
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Other Things to Consider

Children: Are They Worth It?
Children can be demanding, frustrating and exhausting. But they can also be a tremendous source of positive change in our lives.


Transitions: Having a Baby, Preparing for Adolescence

Life Pressures: Working Moms, Stay-At-Home Moms, Time for Family

Relationships: Parents and Adult Children, Blended Families

Discipline

disciplineimgSelf-control, respect for authority, personal integrity — these are just a few of the character traits a child must develop to meet the challenges of school, peer groups and society. And developing strong character is a process. When children willfully disobey, parents must discipline them. Tough as it is, no one loves their kids like parents do. And if parents neglect their role, someone else will do the disciplining eventually, and it won’t be with the same attitude of love (consider the police officer ticketing a teenager who disregards the speed limit or the judge who sentences him to time in jail for drug abuse). One of the best gifts a parent can give a child is respect for authority and an awareness of the tendency to break rules.


Background Information

Journey of No Return
Sometimes as parents, we have a knee-jerk response to our kids as we’re barraged by their numerous inquires and desires. Maybe it’s time to stop being so negative.

When Not To Discipline
Parents should recognize when they should and shouldn’t discipline their children.

When You Feel Like Calling in the SWAT Team
Are your children constantly testing you? This classic parenting advice will help you regain the upper hand.


Questions and Answers

After I spank my child, she usually wants to hug me and make up, but I continue to be cool to her for a few hours. Do you think that is right?
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We’d like to be more unified in our approach, but how do we successfully move from two financial approaches to one?
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How long do you think a child should be allowed to cry after being punished? Is there a limit?
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I have never spanked my 3-year-old because I am afraid it will teach her to hit others and be a violent person. Do you think I am wrong?
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It just seems barbaric to cause pain to a defenseless child. Is it healthy to spank him or her?
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Other Things to Consider

Ten Things Toddlers Wish They Could Tell You
It can do wonders for the frazzled parent to know what’s going on in the mind of your little one.


Transitions: Having a Baby, Preparing for Adolescence

Life Pressures: Working Moms, Stay-At-Home Moms, Time for Family

Relationships: Parents and Adult Children, Blended Families

Children and Divorce

childdivimgBig changes are rarely easy for kids, particularly when those transitions involve people they love and events they can’t control and only partially understand. A child of any age will have difficulty comprehending why his parents fight, or why one of them no longer lives in the house. That’s why, from the start, it’s essential to assure children that divorce is not their fault. Kids need to know they are loved and not to blame for the break-up. By honestly acknowledging that divorce is painful for everyone — and that the responsibility rests on Mom and Dad’s shoulders only —parents can begin to meet their children’s emotional needs and work toward healing and restoration.


Background Information

When Mom and Dad Split
If divorce brings happiness to the parents, the kids will benefit right?

Kids are Resilient, Right?
Some parents insist divorce will restore peace in the home and benefit the children. Little do they know, the trouble is just beginning.


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Stories

Loving the Stepmomster
It wasn’t easy, but I did grow to accept the woman my dad remarried.

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Other Things to Consider

Forgiveness: What it is and What it Isn’t
Understanding and granting forgiveness can help you move past the pain of divorce.


Transitions: Having a Baby, Preparing for Adolescence

Life Pressures: Working Moms, Stay-At-Home Moms, Time for Family

Relationships: Parents and Adult Children, Blended Families

ADHD

adhdimgADHD has become a label seemingly affixed to every hyperactive or distracted child. Though young boys and girls are known for occasional hyperactivity and distraction, children who truly have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) face profoundly unique challenges at home and in the classroom. Kids with these disorders generally struggle in school and are often considered flighty, lazy and disorganized, labels that can lead to poor self-esteem. Because of a low tolerance for boredom and frustration, these children also frequently resort to mischief, leading to persistent discipline problems. As is the case with many physical and psychological conditions, knowledge and understanding are a key to conquering the problem.


Background Information

Treatment of AD/HD
A comprehensive approach to treating AD/HD.

Types of Learning Difficulties
If you suspect your child may have a learning disability, parents need to be aware of the symptoms that prevent learning at school.

Characteristics and Causes of Attention Deficit Disorders
Attention disorders may be one of the most prevalent problems of childhood.


Questions and Answers

My daughter has some of the symptoms of ADD, but she is a very quiet child. Are some ADD kids withdrawn and sedate?
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My six-year-old son is beginning to have learning problems in school because he can’t stay in his seat and concentrate on his lessons. What should I do?
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Does ADD go away as children grow up?
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We have a 5-year-old son who has been diagnosed with ADD. He is really difficult to handle, and I have no idea how to manage him.
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What kind of treatment is available for ADD/ADHD?
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A Reason to Hope
Poor grades at school, inattentiveness and a failure to complete tasks might have a cause you haven’t thought of.

If you’ve been through an experience related to this topic, we invite you to share your story with others.
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Transitions: Having a Baby, Preparing for Adolescence

Life Pressures: Working Moms, Stay-At-Home Moms, Time for Family

Relationships: Parents and Adult Children, Blended Families