moving
Question and Answer
Our 17-year-old son says he won't move with the family. He wants to live with friends and graduate from the school he now attends. Should we let him stay?
Your son's reaction and "plan" are not uncommon. Discuss his desire to stay with his friends and at his school. At the same time, explain the reality that the family (of which he is a part) needs to move, in spite of disappointments or protests.
As a rule, avoid fragmenting your home if at all possible. You may, however, want to consider leaving part of the family behind if the move must take place with only a month or two left in the school semester. This is especially true if it's his senior year. In this case, one option involves having the working/transferred parent go ahead to the new town while the rest of the family waits for school to end. If this isn't possible, find a family (of your choice) that would be willing to board your son until the semester's end. Plan to return for the commencement ceremonies. Before leaving your son, make sure all medical releases and records, as well as legal and financial issues, are understood and available to the host family. And make it clear when your son is expected to join you.
Background Information
Moving Blues
When you move, you pack more than just your stuff — your emotions often get put in boxes, too.
Questions and Answers
How can I get my children ready to handle a move to a new city?
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Due to a job transfer, we are moving to a different region of the country. How can we "soften the blow" for our kids?
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I have a 14-year-old who is depressed, angry and will only talk about our old home. How do I help her?
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What can we do to make our upcoming move easier on our two teenagers?
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Stories
Moving For Him
I knew He loved me, but until I moved, I didn't know how much I needed His love.
Cherish, Not Cling
Deciphering what can be let go and what to hold on to is often a major step in moving on.
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Other Things to Consider
Where is God in the Midst of All My Troubles?
So many cry out to Him in times of need, but is God really listening? And, more important, does He care?
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