having a baby
Make Room For Baby
When one mother brought home a new baby boy, the former youngest took one look ... and bit her mother in the knee out of resentment.
Many children feel threatened when a new baby arrives and becomes the center of attention. While this reaction is normal, here are some tips to minimize bites and bitterness.
- Start preparing your child during the pregnancy. Teach your child how to hold a baby doll with care. Use phrases like "be gentle with the baby" so when the real baby arrives, your child will understand how to behave. Three- and 4-year-olds have difficulty understanding time, so it is better to associate the baby's arrival with a season rather than a month.
- Make the baby's arrival a positive memory. When the baby is born, allow your child to visit the hospital. Greet your child without the baby in your arms. This way you can hug her and let her know how much you missed her. After this time together, let her see the new baby. A special gift from the new baby may help older children appreciate the newest addition.
- Understand that your child will have mixed emotions. Some toddlers regress when a new baby enters the home. Bedwetting, whining and begging for a bottle are a common plea for parental attention. Remind your child of all the things he can do that the baby cannot and all he can teach the new baby.
- Emphasize the older child's important role . Let your child know how special she is because she can be a helper. To provide a sense of importance and the pride of accomplishment, let your child be involved in caring for the baby. For example, allow your child to choose the baby's outfit.
- Affirm your older child. When others compliment your new baby, they often ignore the older child. Praise your older child in front of others. Encourage family members and friends not to forget to make the older sibling feel special, too.
For some children, this transition can be difficult with plenty of tears and tantrums. But with a little sensitivity and effort, an irreplaceable friendship can be formed between the new siblings.
Background Information
Why Daddies Matter
Having a baby is one of the most demanding things a woman can do. Having the help of a husband is invaluable.
Congratulations! You're Gonna Be a Dad!
A pregnancy timeline can help Dad know what to expect and what to put on his calendar.
The Cost of Postponing Childbirth
There are many reasons to delay pregnancy, but having a baby later in life is not without risks.
The Psychological Side of Pregnancy
While a woman experiences radical physiological changes during the months before birth, every mother-to-be also undergoes profound psychological changes.
The Wonder of Birth
The body does amazing things to make you a mother.
Questions and Answers
Our 3-year-old daughter was thrilled about having a new brother or sister. Now, however, she shows signs of jealousy. Please suggest some ways I can ease her through this period of adjustment.
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Review Frequently Asked Questions
Stories
Born too Soon
As with many instances of preterm labor, there was no reason, no explanation, for my wife's water breaking at 27 weeks.
Finding Value in the "Little Things"
Becoming a mother changed my ideas about significance in ways I'd never expected.
Vulnerability
The love a parent feels for her children is a great emotional risk but worth every fear.
Waking Up is Hard to Do
Then again, mostly everything is hard to do when you're pregnant.
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Other Things to Consider
Learning to Roll With Change
It's not the most fun you'll ever have, but the results are worth it.
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