An Ounce of Prevention

Can homosexuality be prevented?

The simple answer is yes, it can be. And that is good news for millions of families. Genetic, psychological and social research confirms that a variety of causes set the stage for homosexual choices. But gender confusion can be reversed. Biological predisposition can be treated. Patterns of attraction and addiction can be understood and reformed. These things, in fact, should be addressed before homosexual behavior ever takes place.

Everyone asks, “So what is the cause of homosexuality?” Yet no one wants to point a finger at anyone or provide a simplistic reason for a condition that is incredibly complex. Like many other adult problems, homosexuality begins at home. Mom and Dad are key players. Research from the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality states, “One hundred percent of the research participants stated their father/father figure was distant, uninvolved in their upbringing, frightening and unapproachable. Eighty-seven percent spoke of a mother who was close, controlling and overbearing.”

As important as parent-child dynamics are, they aren’t the only concerns. The following factors can also contribute to the homosexual orientation.

  • the individual person’s self-will
  • pornography
  • media and culture
  • spousal abuse in the home
  • molestation and pedophilia
  • parental adultery
  • moral relativism
  • seduction by peers
  • chemical imbalances
  • failure of leadership

There are no perfect families, but hopefully parents will identify potential problems and deal with them before they begin.
Excerpted from An Ounce of Prevention: Preventing the Homosexual Condition in Today’s Youth by Don Schmierer, published by Word Publishing. Copyright © 1998 Don Schmierer. Used by permission.

Background Information

Born Gay?
How can you debunk the claim of biological determinism?

Struggling With Homosexuality
These questions and answers are designed to help men and women dealing with same-sex attraction work through the confusion.

The Causes of Homosexuality
Here are three possible reasons why your child is gay.

The Guilt of Homosexuality
Are parents to blame when their son or daughter comes out of the “closet”?

The Sexual Developmental Stages
How do males develop homosexual attractions?

Questions and Answers

My friend is a lesbian, and she thinks it is okay. How do I tell her this isn’t okay with God?

Review Frequently Asked Questions


Finding His Way Out
One man proves it is possible to escape the grip of homosexuality.

My Father’s Closet
When Dad leaves Mom for another woman, the wounds are deep. But what do you do when he leaves for another man?

Not What I’d Expected
Having a gay father-in-law was the beginning of lessons on love and compassion amidst different beliefs and values.

If you’ve been through a experience related to this topic, we invite you to share your story with others.

Share Your Story

Other Things to Consider

I Think I Might Be Gay!
This article, written for teen girls, points out that admiring the qualities, characteristics, or fashion sense of another female does not make you gay.

Where is God in the Midst of All My Troubles?
So many cry out to Him in times of need, but is God really listening? And, more important, does He care?

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