Low Self-Esteem

lowselfesteemA damaging lie is hidden in the timeworn chant, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” The truth is words mold us, torment us and define us. Children, particularly, are susceptible to the impact of a parent’s words. As children grow and develop socially, mentally and physically, they are affected and shaped by people’s opinions — especially their parents’. A child thrives in school and at home when she has a healthy identity; your reactions and words will either give her confidence to believe she can do anything or convince her she is worthless. It is important for parents to build up their child’s self-esteem: providing a safe, loving, accepting environment will reassure your child and teach him that, with support, he can be or do anything.

Background Information

Signs of Bullying
Parent, teachers, coaches, and even friends can benefit from learning what signs to look for that may indicate that your child is having a problem being bullied.

How Low Can They Go?
Sometimes the pit of low self-esteem can seem bottomless. Your kids may need a lifeline now more than ever.

Self-Esteem Programs Get Low Grades
Can a school curriculum adequately fill kids with decent values?

Stage Fright
Understanding what makes kids lose their composure can help them regain it.

To Each His Own
It’s normal for some kids to learn at a slower pace.

Questions and Answers

You have said that children and young people are experiencing an epidemic of self-doubt and feelings of low self-esteem. Why do you think this is true?

My 16-year-old daughter wasn”t asked to the prom and she”s crushed. As a dad, what can I do to help build her up?

Review more Frequently Asked Questions


The Wounded Spirit
Bullying is not the harmless youthful activity some think it is. It inflicts psychological scars that can last a lifetime.

If you’ve been through an experience related to this topic, we invite you to share your story with others.
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Other Things to Consider

The Perfect Child
A little perfectionism goes a long way. Too much can be a real downer for kids.

Transitions: Having a Baby, Preparing for Adolescence

Life Pressures: Working Moms, Stay-At-Home Moms, Time for Family

Relationships: Parents and Adult Children, Blended Families