talking about sex
Question and Answer
When do children begin to develop a sexual nature? Does this occur suddenly during puberty?
No, it occurs long before puberty. Perhaps the most important concept suggested by Freud was his observation that children are not asexual. He stated that sexual gratification begins in the cradle and is first associated with feeding.1 Behavior during childhood is influenced considerably by sexual curiosity and interest, although the happy hormones do not take full charge until early adolescence. Thus, it is not uncommon for a 4-year-old to be interested in nudity and the sexual apparatus of the opposite sex.
The elementary school years are an important time in the forming of sexual attitudes. Parents should be careful not to express shock and disgust over this kind of curiosity, even though they have to disapprove of exploratory behavior. It is believed that many sexual problems begin as a result of inappropriate training during early childhood.
Background Information
Having "The Talk"
It might be awkward, but it's a parent's place to talk about sex.
How Much is Too Much?
Here are age-appropriate guidelines for teaching kids about sex.
Questions and Answers
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I would like to teach my own child about human sexuality, but I'm not sure I know how to go about it. When do I say what?
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In a culture where dating and sex often blend together, where do I tell my son to "draw the line" physically?
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Is sexual experimentation normal? What should I do if I catch my child acting out with another child?
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