media influence
Suggestions for Taming the Tube
Decide what, when and how long your child will watch TV. Specifically:
- Set definite limits on time and content.
- Monitor what's going on, and be prepared to remove your toddler from the viewing area (or shut the program off) if things are getting too intense.
- Talk to your child about what she just watched. Even a program with elements or a message you don't like can be a teaching springboard if you put your spin on its content. ("That boy didn't speak very nicely to his mom, did he?")
Be discerning about children's videos. Watch them yourself before showing them to your child. While many worthwhile stories utilize fantasy or supernatural elements, some G-rated cartoons contain messages that may undermine or contradict the spiritual values you cherish and teach at home.
Be even more discerning about video games. Even though a toddler won't have much luck manipulating the controls, she may watch with rapt attention while the older kids battle monsters, space aliens or other humans—and she may view some grisly and disturbing images.
Don't get into the habit of using the TV as an electronic baby-sitter . After a long day it is extremely tempting to park the kids in front of the screen so you can pick up the clutter, get a meal started, or simply put your feet up for a few minutes. If you need a time-out, put on a specific video you know to be worthwhile or at least search for wholesome children's programming. But don't leave the TV on for hours on end or allow older children to channel surf, because you will lose control of those powerful images and sounds entering the minds of the most important people in your life.
Ask yourself periodically whether television viewing is replacing conversation in your family. Consider declaring your home a "TV-free zone" one or more evenings every week in order to encourage reading, games or other activities. Don't allow the TV to become a routine guest (or intruder) at any family meal.
If you are having trouble controlling the broadcast material coming into your home, consider disconnecting the cable or antenna and relying strictly on videocassettes that you buy and/or rent , choosing material based on quality, age appropriateness and family-friendly values.
If TV watching is getting out of control and the tube is exerting far more influence in your family's life than you feel is appropriate, consider as a last resort giving the television a new home for a while — unplugged in the garage.
Background Information
Video Game Ratings Explained
Ratings are helpful tools for parents who want to make informed buying decisions.
How Violent Media Affects the Brain
New research cements a link between violent video games and increased levels of violence in teens
The Power of the Media
It's hard to deny that music and visual images have tremendous sticking power. But do those lingering sensations really make a difference?
When Life Imitates Art
We need to be very careful about what we allow ourselves to watch and listen to. Examples of others who didn't make wise choices are numerous, and some of them are frightening.
Children and Television
If parents don't know what their children watch on TV, it may come back to haunt them.
Questions and Answers
I'm troubled by some of the CDs showing up in our home. How do we set a music standard for our 13-year-old daughter?
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What are the long-term consequences when children watch violent and sexual content on television?
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What is your opinion of video games?
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Stories
It Matters What They Watch
Steven slaughtered Xbox villains, watched R-rated movies and surfed endless channels on television. Trouble is, lax boundaries steered him down a destructive path.
If you've been through a experience related to this topic, we invite you to share your story with others.Share Your Story
Other Things to Consider
Do What I Do
Children learn by watching us live our lives. It is all the more reason to live honorably.
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