talking about sex
How Much is Too Much?
Believe it or not, your teen and his peers are very interested in the topic of sex and the changes that are occurring physically and emotionally during adolescence. Listed below are topics that should be covered with your teen at the appropriate age:
Ages 10 to 13
Girls should know about:
Menstruation
Breast development
Hormonal changes
Emotional changes relative to menstruation and reproductive organ development
Stages of body growth
Bodily hair changes
Skin changes (breakouts, clogged pores) and hygiene due to hormonal changes
Female reproductive organs and the body's role in reproduction
How conception and pregnancy occur
Male reproductive organs and their role in pregnancy
Variance in the timing of physical development
Recognizing the unique beauty in each individual
How our culture, namely the media, influences how society treats sex, purity and abstinence
Guys should know about:
Bodily changes (including growth in height, weight, body hair and voice deepening)
Skin changes (breakouts and clogged pores)
Nocturnal emissions or "wet dreams"
Reproductive organ development
How physical changes contribute to create emotional changes during adolescence
Reproductive organ development in females and how conception and pregnancy occur
Variance in the timing of physical development
Recognizing the unique beauty in each individual
How genetics play an important part in development, for example, what we inherit from our family in terms of body appearance, growth and disease factors
How our culture, namely the media, influences how society treats sex, purity and abstinence
Background Information
Having "The Talk"
It might be awkward, but it's a parent's place to talk about sex.
Questions and Answers
When do children begin to develop a sexual nature?
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I really want my daughter to enjoy the Valentine season, but how can I help her see past the worldly exploitation of romance?
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I would like to teach my own child about human sexuality, but I'm not sure I know how to go about it. When do I say what?
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In a culture where dating and sex often blend together, where do I tell my son to "draw the line" physically?
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Is sexual experimentation normal? What should I do if I catch my child acting out with another child?
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Stories
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Other Things to Consider
When It Comes to Sex, Character Counts
Teaching character can make a difference in your child's future sex life.
Related Topics
Transitions: Having a Baby, Preparing for Adolescence
Life Pressures: Working Moms, Stay-At-Home Moms, Time for Family
Relationships: Parents and Adult Children, Blended Families
