special needs children
Working Through Grief
As a nurse and parent of a son with Down syndrome, Joanne Woolsey is often called on to counsel parents of newborn Down babies. She tells them how much families come to love children with Down syndrome — it seems to be universal. But she also tells them it's okay to grieve. "You have to grieve for the child you were expecting before you can accept the child you have," she says.
Some stages of grief that you might experience are:
- Denial. I can't believe this is happening to me.
- Anxiety. How can I possibly handle this?
- Fear. What will happen to my child and my family?
- Guilt. What did I do to cause this?
- Depression. My hopes and dreams seem to be lost forever.
- Anger. This isn't fair!
- Acceptance. I don't like what has happened. I don't understand why it happened. I don't know how I'm going to handle this.
You may go through the above stages several times. You may get stuck in one stage or get to acceptance and then go back to anger, fear, or more grieving when a different situation or milestone comes into your life. It may be a long, ongoing process or a short, one time process. Grief tailor makes itself according to what each individual is going through. For some parents, the grief never stops; it just pauses now and then. One of the keys to surviving grief is to allow yourself to experience it. Recognize it and receive God's comfort.
Background Information
Why So Quiet?
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Questions and Answers
Where can parents of special needs children find support groups?
Answer
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Stories
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Adam's Story
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Our Son Joe
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Too Young To Die
Living with a seriously ill child can seem too much to bear.
If you've been through a experience related to this topic, we invite you to share your story with others.Share Your Story
Other Things to Consider
In His Image
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A Spiritual RX for Healthy Mind and Body
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Bearing the Burden of a Child's Illness
In the midst of a devastating diagnosis, sometimes all you can do is to trust God.
Divine Wisdom
If you're struggling with any of the questions below, these thoughts and scriptures may help.
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