sexual dissatisfaction in marriage
Just Hold Me
Cuddling, for a woman, fills an emotional need. When a husband cuddles with his wife, he is saying, “I love you. You are important to me. I love being near you.” Sex, for a man, fills this same emotional need. When a wife makes love to her husband, she is saying, “I love you. You are important to me. I love being near you.” We women insist that our husbands share their emotions with us. Must we also insist that this sharing be verbal rather than physical?
As women, we sometimes pooh pooh physical needs because we are masters at dismissing our own physical needs. But we wouldn't dream of dismissing an emotional need. Emotional needs are so — valid! A man has a physical need for sex, but for him, sex also meets a deep emotional need. When you make love to your husband, you touch his soul and create an outlet of expression for his emotions. In essence, touching him enables him to get in touch with himself. Listen to Dr. John Gray's insight:
Many times after having great sex with my wife, I realize that I had forgotten how beautiful the trees are in our neighborhood. I go outside and breathe in the fresh air and feel alive again. It is not that I didn't feel alive in my work, but by connecting with my wife through great sex, I can reawaken and bring to life my more sensual feelings that are easily forgotten in the focused pursuit of achieving my goals at work. In a sense, great sex helps me to stop and smell the flowers. 1
Background Information
Gender Differences in Orgasms
Men and women aren't the same when it comes to reaching the peak of sexual fulfillment.
Virtual Unfaithfulness: Pornography Use in a Marriage
Why shouldn't a husband and wife use pornography to increase their sexual excitement and enhance their lovemaking?
When Sex Isn't Satisfying
Here's a look at the origins of sexual dissatisfaction in marriage.
Questions and Answers
Why are some men and women less sensual than others?
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My wife will not respond to me sexually unless the circumstances are just right. Are other women like this?
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Review Frequently Asked Questions
Stories
Unhappy in Bed
If sex is supposed to be great, why is it less than satisfying for so many couples?
If you've been through a experience related to this topic, we invite you to share your story with others.Share Your Story
Other Things to Consider
Where is God in the Midst of All My Troubles?
So many cry out to Him in times of need, but is God really listening? And, more important, does He care?
Related Topics
Abuse & Addiction: Pornography and Cybersex, Sexual Abuse
Parenting Children: Talking About Sex
Parenting Teens: Sexual Activity, Crisis Pregnancy, Homosexuality
Transitions: Getting Married, Adoption, Having a Baby
