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How to Help the Compulsive Gambler
Once his fantasy evaporates, once he finally reaches a realization that the one big, elusive win is not "right around the corner" and that, even if it were, he would simply blow that as well on the machines and/or the tables, only then is the gambler ready to be helped. The question then becomes: What next?
For a rare few nothing comes next. They, like their fellow "rare few" alcoholics or drug addicts, quit "cold turkey" and simply move on.1 Certainly they are beset with the problems, financial, emotional, and relational, that they have incurred and have subjected loved ones to during their addiction, and these they must resolve, but the gambling itself they leave behind and don't look back.
Many, many more, though, need organized, professional help to point them in the right direction and lead them down the path toward recovery. They need therapy of some sort, either with a skilled professional or with a group, or in both settings during the same course of therapy.
Optimally, this therapy will serve a great many functions:2
- It will successfully identify and treat co-occurring disorders like substance abuse and other problems.
- It will help the gambler devise strategies to replicate the benefits of gambling — escaping one's problems or limiting one's anxiety, for example, or getting the "high" the action provides — in other, more constructive ways than gambling.
- It will help the gambler take more responsibility for his actions, including the damage he has done in his relationship with his spouse and family — the betrayed trust and highly curtailed lines of communication — and especially the financial havoc he has wreaked, and seek to remedy these wrongs.
- It will debunk all the erroneous beliefs the gambler harbors about gambling, such as his view on how luck operates and how, through his "system," he can exert his skills onto the odds.
- It will augment the gambler's emotional skills, his problem-solving skills, his interpersonal skills, and his relapse prevention skills.
- It will address underlying issues such as depression, the gambler's psychological relationship with his parents, his views of success and failure, and others, if such exist.
But its principal goal is simple and cannot be overstated: to change one's gambling habit and everything that destructive habit has wrought in the gamblers' lives and their families.
Background Information
Compulsive and Problem Gambling: A National Problem
An addiction to games of chance has become a widespread epidemic in America.
Gambling and Kids
Not only is gambling legal, for the first time in modern American history, it's being promoted as family entertainment.
Gambling's Impact on Families
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Questions and Answers
What role does denial play in the life of the compulsive gambler?
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I am married to a compulsive gambler and have heard the expression "enabler." Could you help me determine if I am an enabler?
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Stories
His Ticket Home: A Gambler's Story
After struggling for years with an addiction to gambling, my brother eventually found redemption. Here's his story.
If you've been through a experience related to this topic, we invite you to share your story with others.Share Your Story
Other Things to Consider
God and Gambling
What does the Bible say about gambling?
Filling the Holes in Our Souls
When harmless "hobbies" become compulsions, it may be time to take a closer look at the emotional deficits in our lives.
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